It's my turn to blog! But i'm passing the torch this week. My husband so graciously offered to share some love today. So tune in and check it out!
Let's face it, we are all addicted to something. Whether it be simple things like making sure the cabinet doors are always closed, the toilet seat is always down, our cell phone screen, facebook, instagram, clothes folded a certain way, or the more popular things that get the label addiction like drugs and alcohol, we all have our addictionS. Yes addictionS with a capital S because let's be honest, we know we have more than one. There is a newer term labeled on top of addiction now and it's commonly known as “obsessive compulsive disorder” or OCD. Now I suppose that is the politically correct term for those who don't want the negative term of addict. But it's the same thing as addiction isn't it? The only difference is situation vs. substance. I mean, how do we act when something isn't the way we need it to be? Pretty much the same way someone addicted to substance abuse would right? There is this little irritable side to us that controls the way we need things to be and when they aren't life is out of whack! And then SNAP! Yes we have all been on that freight train before. No stopping it until it runs out of steam or gets derailed by a little humble pie.
So why are we all addicts? Why do we all possess such strong ties to needing things a certain way? The reason is there's something hard wired into us to be one. Except we often use our addictive power in wrong ways, either against others or against ourselves. We choose to be addicted to things that aren't life giving. We choose to struggle to gain control but the truth is we can only GIVE control. We allow situations, circumstances, feelings, or substances to be the driver of our thoughts and emotions. And it's because we feel like we NEED it. But that's the truth. We DO need it. But we need it in the right way. Jesus said, “You shall know the truth and the truth will set you free”. We all have the need to have control but it's not that we are in control at all right? Who can add but a single hour to their life? See what I mean. These things have there way with us. But life's not about being controlled or being in control. It's about just BEING...out of control altogether. This is what it means to be free. So how do we do that exactly? Take the power back like Rage Against the Machine! (Sorry, not the best analogy, but had to go there). Realize life is one big experience. Surrendering to the experience of life is when we are set free from control. When we fight for control we cause our own suffering and other's suffering. We get what we ask for! So let's take a moment and ask ourselves, when was the last time I felt truly ALIVE? Well, it was the last time you were out of control!
If we think back there are moments in our lives burned into your subconscious where we felt SO alive. Moments of happiness or big events which had our full attention. A lot of times it's from when we were young because that's when we were REALLY alive. The world was so big because we were so new, so small. We were too busy experiencing, not getting hung up on things. Yeah we had our temper tantrums but give us some discipline or a lollipop and we were skipping onto the next thing! Oh to be a kid again right? All that energy and liveliness. Well let me tell you a little secret. That little kid is still alive in you! And it's calling you to give up control altogether and be free from the bondage of adulthood! When is that last time you just laughed and played like a kid and let go of the time? When is that last time you got so super excited you got butterflies? If you have recently, congratulations! You are on the right path!
As an adult I'm sure there are times you have experienced pure bliss as well. When we are so submerged into our surroundings that there isn't anything else that exists except the present moment. There isn't any other time than right now. The present moment is eternal. Go ahead back and read that again. Guess what...that was the first time at that moment you ever read that. Do it again. Guess what....that was the first time at that moment you ever read that! That's right! Every breath you take is a NEW breath you've never taken before. You have the opportunity for total freedom at every moment of every day! This is what being alive is about! Not living in the past or the future. Get out of your head and live the life that's all around you. This is what you were experiencing as a child though you didn't even know it. Be invested in the eternal moment. Let it be attracted to you. We can't be struggling for control any longer to be truly alive.
This is where we are going to find LIFE. The here and now. The little child which remains in us lives in the moment. Let it come out to play! Allow curiosity and inquiry to guide us. Ask the big WHY question over and over and over! Laugh at yourself. Live like there aren't any limits. Life is huge and every step is a new beginning, an opportunity to grow because life is ever expanding and ever growing. Be too busy experiencing it. Things like smelling the roses, soaking in the surroundings, listening to the little things, feeling creation, tasting the delicious foods presented to you. And then say “Mmmmm life is good”! Every moment is compounding from another. An infinite process.
So let's face it. We aren't going to get away from addiction or control, but we can point the power of it in the right direction by letting go of it. We are all living beings. There is a bigger picture here in life. We need to be giving our addictionS to what's good. Or now, we've learned we can say we need to receive what's good being addicted to us since we are out of control! What are the passions, pursuits, and desires in your being which give life to humanity? The best life living is a life of giving. So give up control. It's a daily, moment by moment process. There are seeds planted in us which produce good fruit. The fact is we didn't put them there. Good put them there. Experience put them there. This fruit is food for others. Don't let the weeds take control of your garden. Be still and quiet while spending time cultivating the land within you. Pull the weeds. Let go of who you think you are, and be who you truly are. A child living and loving life.
Let's be at peace with ourselves. Forgiving of the times where we rush and the times we let the day go by unintentionally. Let's be thankful and grateful for every moment. Let's allow our inner child to run free, out of control, even when times feel trialing. Any challenge is rain on your seeds, and another time for growth. So let's challenge each other. Let's grow together. Let's be ONE, always out of control.
Sit back and enjoy the ride,
Recommended reading: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, also available as an audio book on You Tube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iZ2IuJDdK3I
Jeanmare and Cristy are creators and contributors of the Living Simply Nourished Blog. Grab a cup of tea (or coffee!), find a cozy spot, scroll around, read some stories, find some inspiration, and enjoy!
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