So, a few weeks ago, I was sharing with you a struggle I was having with being in a bad place, for lack of a better word. I put a strategy together in an attempt to feel better (FYI a daily gratitude list is the quickest shortcut). Honestly, writing the blog post was cathartic in and of itself. In many ways, writing weekly articles has become my new journaling practice.
In an effort to kick the whole thing up a notch I read a book I’d heard about on a recent podcast called The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k, by Sarah Knight. Sorry about the F-word. I promise not to say it outloud...mainly because my mother will be reading (something I do give a f**k about).
You might think this title sounds familiar and reminiscent of a book I’d talked about at the beginning of the year called The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo. This particular book was a key tool I used in my letting-go efforts of half my possessions through the Japanese art of decluttering and organizing my stuff. Yawn. I know, I'm so over it, too.
When I heard Sarah Knight’s interview on the podcast, I was really struck, not by the title of the book, surprisingly, or her brilliant humor, but of Knight’s subsequent decision to give up her New York City career, home and basically life-as-she-knew-it and trade it in for year-round Caribbean living in the Dominican Republic. Now that’s what I’m talkin’ about. Right there.
That. Is. What. I’m. Talking. About.
By looking at the familiar cover and style of the book itself, one can see that this is written as a parody to Kondo’s book (wonder how she got away with that?) of getting rid of not only things that don’t "spark joy", but Knight says it’s written for those of us who want "to stop spending time we don’t have with people we don’t like doing things we don’t want to do". I’m all about getting better at that.
Some of us think we’ve already taken care of that aspect of our lives...but have we really? When was the last time you tidied up your f**k drawer? Have you mastered the art of mental decluttering? Assessed your f**k budget? Knight helps us divide all of our f**ks into 4 categories (things, work, friends/acquaintances/strangers and family) and teaches to masterfully implement the NotSorry Method along with what we can learn from those mythical creatures who quite, naturally, don’t give a f**k:
2. The Enlightened
In her book, Knight shares her personal f**k budget which inspired me to come up with my own. It consumed me for 2 solid days as I filled up pages in a notebook of all those things I may or may not give a f**k about. Just remember...my list may contain things you DO care about and that’s ok! I’m sure there are many weeks (most?) you read my blog posts and think, “Jeanmare, I really don’t give a f**k.”
It’s all good.
Though the items listed in my f**k budget may seem unconcerning and irrelevant in the scheme of things, I can assure you they have been carefully considered and do have a direct correlation to time, money and energy, which are, basically, the only hard limits we face each day. Trimming the fat in those areas can free us to do more than we might imagine.
If there is the slightest possibility you might be a “yes” person or it's been way too long since you've snorted while laughing, definitely go straight to Amazon and order this book immediately. Or you can borrow mine. Not only does it guide you to enlightenment and free you of your f**k-giving, but this book is absolutely hilarious!! Laugh-out-loud, downright funny.
Scratch that. I don’t want to build up your expectations. Oh what do I care?
Barahona, here I come!
Hear the author in her own words- uncensored non-symbol swearing because she really does not give a f**k-
Sara Knight's TEDxCoconut Grove.
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